How to Fall in Love with Yourself

For a great many, we spend a lot of our time looking outside of ourselves for love and happiness. We created this idea of the soul-to-soul connection, soulmate or twin flame or whatever other label you may use, to create the opportunity to do just that: to create the opportunity to fall in love. What so many of us don’t realize at the time is that this opportunity was created by us so that we could fall in love with ourselves. For the majority, we are programmed to think we need this connection to feel love. 

The purpose of these connections is to prove the opposite to be true:  to pull us apart, revealing all the unpleasant truths about ourselves in an effort to teach us to love our selves. Mirroring back all of our dysfunction that needs to be understood. The path to do that is a rocky one for most of us, revealing the darker parts of ourselves we would rather leave forgotten. This was created by you, by what most of us would call higher self, to create the opportunity for you to remember who you really are and allow you to start to accept all the darker parts of yourself so you can begin to fall in love with yourself as the beautiful higher vibrational intelligence you are.

Why even bother with all these labels of soulmate 

and twin flame?

The reason is we currently still need labels to understand something. Without labels we can’t apply meaning to a word, a thing, an object or an experience. That’s just part of how we are programmed. That doesn’t mean there won’t come a time where you no longer need those labels. Those labels also serve as a focal point in which multiple people having similar experiences can gather, share and hopefully contribute to each others’ understanding of these connections, enriching each others’ experiences without judgement or forcing their ideas, philosophies or ideologies of their connections onto each other. Well that’s the hope anyways. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. 

But I was told about all these different connections.

Are they really that different?

That depends on who you ask. I wouldn’t attach to these ideas of karmic relationship, false twin flame, twin flame, soul mate etc. These are just labels and are prime examples of people who are looking outside of themselves, trying to understand the vibrations that they are creating within themselves, that are emanating all around them, creating their vibrational match based on their current level of connection that they are capable of.  Instead, try using this terminology: this person is my vibrational match.  Don’t give away all your energy to the different labels that someone else has dictated its meaning to you. At the end of the day, it’s just a story, a story created for our benefit in the hopes we would one day realize we don’t need it. . We just needed to understand we’re doing it all! 

It’s Time to Move Closer to Yourself

If you reached a point in your journey where you’ve accepted that you’re the one doing it all, creating it all for yourself, you’re well on your way and you need to celebrate that. Now you need to ask yourself: will you continue to accept everyone else’s definition of love or will you begin to create your own? Will you continue to hold on to these ideas of connection that were dictated to you and you believed because they were fluffy and nice? And most importantly, will you accept that you created your soul-to-soul connections based on your story of what these connections are? What would happen if no longer accepted the limitations of these connections, of the soulmate, the twin flame or whatever other label you use? Would you create something new? Would you finally look at yourself in the mirror and remember that you exist in love? That you are love? That all these connections were created so that you could remember that truth so that you could finally be in love with the most important person in the world, yourself? Would you then finally be able to enter a state of being of union with yourself? Creating your own personal heaven on earth? At the end of the day, you’re gonna have to make the choice for yourself. What will you choose? To be in love with yourself, accepting yourself as you are or to continue looking outside of yourself. expecting love to find you? 

Inspired by the Divine Intelligence

Created just for you

Written by Jon Wilkinson